impact of adultery in divorce

She Slept With My Brother

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Adultery is a marriage killer. It may be a deal breaker. It may be the last straw. But any way you cut it, most marriages never recover from a cheating spouse. It’s even worse when it’s with someone you know. And it’s extra terrible when it’s your own brother, your own flesh and blood.

Our founding partner, Rick Jones, makes regular appearances on the Danny Bonaduce and Sarah Morning Show on KZOK, where he answers listener questions about family law matters. One recent caller finds himself in this unenviable position.

While infidelity may destroy a marriage, the question remains, what impact does it actually have on divorce? We see these big “gotcha” moments all the time in movies and on TV when one spouse is unfaithful. It’s often portrayed as, “You cheated, you lose everything!” The reality of the situation, however, is drastically different.

Listen to the Call and Conversation Below:

Caller: “My job takes me away for days on end. [A] couple days, sometimes weeks. I came home recently to find out my brother has been sleeping with my wife. And I’d like a divorce.”

Danny: “I bet you would. I bet you want a divorce from your brother as well. I will tell you this, I don’t know the answer to this, but I do know how life works.”

Rick’s Answer:

Rick:Well, first of all, I’m going to apologize for what you’re going through this. Ultimately, it puts you in the same boat as everybody else that wants a divorce, which is that, simply put, you put one foot in front of the other.

“You start by getting the case filed. Then you address any temporary issues, for example, the living situation might be a bit uncomfortable.

Danny:Oh so you gotta get that, you’re right. I went through that, I didn’t even think about that, because it was a big house with a basement. He’s got to figure out a place for him or for her.”

Rick:Or for her, exactly. So that’s what I mean in terms of putting one foot in front of the other. There’s nothing that stops you from getting a case filed right now.

“The other thing for you to know and for everyone else to hear, that fact of what she and your brother is doing is morally reprehensible, doesn’t matter when it comes to issues that arise during a divorce.

“It’s still going to be diving up assets and liabilities. If you have children you have to address that. There may be some issues you want to raise though regarding parenting. But ultimately it’s one foot in front of the other.”

Danny:Great advice by the way, and I happen to know this, from you of course, that Washington, is a ‘no-fault state,’ it doesn’t matter that she had sex with his brother, right?

Rick:Correct.

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